Sunday, January 22, 2017

Love is a verb

"The greatest thing you'll ever learn is just to love and be loved in return."
Moulin Rouge


Love is a verb. 
It's opening her car door and "Here...wear my jacket."
Dinner is ready, and "I brought wine."

Love is cleaning up messes and chicken soup when you're sick. 
"Want to run with me?" and "it's time for you to get some sleep."
Picking the kids up from practice at 9 pm, and Sonic runs "just because."

Love is concerts, plane tickets and road trips. 
A full tank of gas, surprises and sunsets.
Listening to listen instead of listening to answer. 
Perfect imperfection. 

Love is DO it, SHOW it, BE it. 
Love is action.
Love is a verb. 







Sunday, January 15, 2017

You can stop beating yourself up now.


“Understanding the difference between healthy striving and perfectionism is critical to laying down the shield and picking up your life. Research shows that perfectionism hampers success. In fact, it's often the path to depression, anxiety, addiction, and life paralysis.”
BrenĂ© Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are   


You can stop beating yourself up now. 
There's a pile of clothes on the floor, unopened mail on the countertops and the bed hasn't been made in weeks......
But you have a warm, safe and comfortable home. 

Maybe you don't make as many home cooked meals as you would like, or you ate a cupcake just to stay awake this afternoon, or you decided that giving up coffee would be the equivalent of torture. 
But your belly is full. 

You can stop beating yourself up for the thickness of your waist, or the wrinkles that show themselves when you smile.  For the every day pony tail and your abhorrence of high heels......
Because you are beautiful just the way you are. 

You don't have to be "the best" at everything.  It's ok if you don't work 55 hours a week, or you have a terrible race.   You know that your best attempts at relationships sometimes fall apart, yet you continue to love.........
Because you are a girl that learns from her mistakes. 

Wouldn't you be so much happier if you stopped beating yourself up for your "imperfections"? 
Today, I gift myself with the permission to be human.