Sunday, November 27, 2016

Stop wishing. Start DOING

"If you can run 100 miles, you can do anything."
Jennifer Kimble...when facing fear

Living in fear is the same as living in hell. 

Let's say there is something you really want to accomplish- you're even confident that you COULD do it.....but fear whispers  "honey, you're not good enough." 
So for one second you become that defiant  toddler who asks "well why the hell not?" 
But fear, the dictatorial parent that it is put's it's hand in your face and says "don't even try."

So, you settle into acceptance.  Into that monotonous job that is just ok, or that questionable relationship that isn't quite right, or even worse for mediocrity.

But down deep you keep wishing for success. 
For financial security and freedom from worries.
For happiness and satisfaction.
To do more for those who depend on you. 
For finish lines.  For winning. 
For beautiful places and adventure and fun. 
For admiration and leadership. 
For no bullshit. 
For friendship and love. 

So, let's say one day someone comes along that convinces you that the fairy tale is real. That it belongs to YOU and you  DESERVE it. 
So you work a little harder, becoming more confident each day
And you stop wishing and you start doing.
And when the baby steps start adding up......
Action obliterates fear.
And things start CHANGING!
You find yourself smiling more often, so much so that success snowballs into genuine happiness. 

Hell is for non-believers.
Do what you fear, and fear disappears.
For real.

Sunday, November 20, 2016

When You're Happy and You Know It.....

"When you're happy and you know it,
then you're face will surely show it."
Folk song

When you're happy and you know it.....
There are more crinkled smiles
More hello kisses than drive-away goodbyes
More comfortable conversations
More appreciations. 

When you're happy and you know it
There is more abundance.
There are more yeses.... and less maybes.
You have more energy
and more security.

When you're happy and you know it
life is easy
and comfortable
and peaceful. 

When you're happy and you know it
For God's sake.......sing it out loud
and clap your hands. 

Sunday, November 13, 2016

'Cause Life is Short but Sweet for Certain.......

"Celebrate we will
'Cause life is short but sweet for certain.
We're climbing two by two to be sure these days continue.
These days we cannot change."
Dave Matthews

"The meaning and purpose of life is for you to become the best version of yourself."
This simple, yet profound statement from Matthew Kelly's The Rhythm of Life has completely changed my life. 

So many times when feeling lost I have questioned, "Is this the place where I'm supposed to be?   Why did that have to happen?  Am I serving my purpose?" 
But according to Kelly, God's dream for you is to become the best version of yourself. 
That's it! 

So, about 3 months ago I decided that everyday I would set my intention on being the best version of myself as the day's events unfolded.  Taking one moment at a time, I began to concentrate wholeheartedly on my words, my actions, my thoughts, my reactions.....and asked myself if I was truly being the best version of myself in each moment. 
Sometimes the best version of myself needed to eat, exercise or take a nap. 
Sometimes the best version of myself needed to really listen, or be a friend. 
Sometimes the best version of myself needed to meditate or chill.
Sometimes the best version of myself needed to dig deeper at work.
And sometimes the best version of myself meant choosing love over fear. 

And wow-  things have changed. 
I made the decision that mediocrity was unacceptable in my relationships and at work, allowing me to flourish.
I learned to treat my body with respect, to take lunch breaks and days off.   To better listen for when to push and when to back off.  To love the skin that holds my soul.
I've apologized.  I  made the phone call that needed to be made 3 years ago.  I ask more questions, and I've reached goals once thought unattainable. 

It makes perfect sense.  You no longer need to wander around aimlessly! 
Every day, every hour, every minute mindfulness can lead to the discovery of who we are. 
In the words of Robert Louis Stevenson, "To be what we are, and to become what we are capable of becoming is the only end of life."  You were born to become the best version of yourself.
Celebrate.  For life is short but sweet for certain........

Wednesday, November 2, 2016

You had the power all along......

"In the end only three things matter: how much you loved, how gently you lived, and how gracefully you let go of things not meant for you."  

Some things just weren't meant to be.

I've always thought that if I worked enough, loved enough, or gave enough that I could make a square peg  fit into a round hole.  Relationships, jobs, people, places....they come in and out of your story on a daily basis.  But sometimes we get stuck on the same chapter- therefore never finishing the book.

When I let go of the characters, settings, plots and conflicts that no longer served me, moving on to the next chapter became effortless.   I've literally watched my amazing story unfold with infinite possibility.

I more easily love.
Because I am no longer filled with uncertainty or anxiety I have more to give to my family, my clients, work and writing.  As I am fulfilled, my wish is that all persons understand their infinite potential.   As my energy surges, I smile with ease, my heart bursts, my adoration grows.
There is less jealously, hurt and egocentricity.
More love means more LIFE!

My spirit is has become gentle.
I find balance and control in my everyday routine.  I strive to live simply, leaving a small footprint every where I go. My heart is soft and more compassionate. My life is positive and satisfying.
Its easier to lift others up, to have grace, to forgive.
For the first time in a very long time, I feel peace in both movement and stillness.
I waltz with grace, and rock with awe.

My life has changed for the better.
The drama has been replaced with a romantic comedy.
The satire has become an homage.

You are in control of your story.  Know that.  BELIEVE that.
For as the good witch told Dorothy at the end of a beautiful story called the Wizard of Oz:
"You had the power all along my dear."
You just had to find it out for yourself.