No, really.....how can I HELP you?

" I get by with a little help from my friends,
Mmm, I get high with a little help from my friends,
Mmm, gonna to try with a little help from my friends"
The Beatles

Asking for help is an act of courage.   We have to announce that we’re not perfect.  We admit that we can’t do it alone.  Our egos must bow down in reverence to our spirit, and we become instantly vulnerable.   Help me, we ask.  EMPOWER ME. 

Most of us ask for help because we want to find the strong and dynamic person we lost somewhere along the way.  But often, when our friends ask us for help; we pity them.  We say we’re sorry, then carry on with our own concerns instead of empowering them with reaction.  How can we really help someone when they ask?  Put words into motion. 

1.         Tell them you’re sorry to hear about their situation, but follow that with “How can I help you?” Invite them to dinner, take flowers or ask them to go for a walk.  Shift

2.         Listen with intent.  Visit them or talk on the phone instead of texting so you can hear the pain and need in their voice and understand their hurt.  Let them know its ok to cry. Hear.

3.       Hold their hand.  Go to AA meetings or doctor appointments with them.  Send them a book that was helpful to you.  Bring dinner to their house or give them a break from their troubles. Give them a hug.  Act.

4.       Send energy or pray for them.  Positive thoughts lead to positive change in the world.  Love

"Your beliefs become your thoughts,
 Your thoughts become your words,
 Your words become your actions,
 Your actions become your habits,
 Your habits become your values,
 Your values become your destiny.”   Ghandi